Wednesday 19 April 2017

...rumours..

Rumours. 

"Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you,
Let them gossip about you,
Their opinions aren't your problem,
You stay kind, committed to love,
and free in your authenticity.
No matter what they do or say 
don't you dare doubt your worth
or the beauty of your truth.
Just keep on shining like you do."

I'm writing this particular post because a couple of days ago I got told something about myself that I knew wholeheartedly wasn't true. The person that had said the things about me I had a physical attraction too and even if he had said he wasn't into me I was quite happy to just be friends however..
Instead he chose to talk about me in a vulgar and obnoxious way to his friends at work. The problem was, if someone at his work hadn't of told me about the things he'd said I'd still be thinking we were cool an were still friends.

I felt betrayed because I genuinely thought we were mates, I still don't see what he got out of even saying the things he did but I'm glad his true colours came out sooner rather than later. So that's atleast a positive from all of this.

Rumours can literally ruin a persons life and the worst thing is the person starting the rumour has absolutely no care and decency for the victim of the rumour. One of my good friends Jamal knows this far too well. He had an absolutely awful rumour started about him that literally cost him his education, it lead him to drop out of college and he went from being a bubbly outgoing person to an introvert that wouldn't leave his bedroom unless he had to go to work. 

At the start of 13 reasons why, there was a rumour about Hannah Baker one of the lead characters in it in which this guy and his friends had told everyone they'd had sex etc. That contributed to her then feeling suicidal. I'm not saying rumours can be the main cause of people committing suicide however it can be a contributing factor to it 
If people stopped being so shitty to one another then there wouldn't be so so many people feeling suicidal in this dark and gloomy world. 

The aim of this post was to make people realise that words no matter how insignificant you feel them to be can have a major impact on the person you're spreading these rumours about, whether you say you've had sex with this person or you say this persons been beating you, and before anybody says anything both of them statements are extremely significant things to lie about. You could easily ruin somebody's life in the space of 5 minutes by telling others it's true and it'll go on like Chinese whispers.

Moral of the story - don't be a dick.


L x